I have 2 children who are currently 6 and 4. We have been married for a little over 5 years.
I haven't told my wife that "I will not live in an open marriage" probably because she hasn't admitted to anything. However, this is something I will definitely do to set a clear ground rule. She told me the other day that she has broken all contact with him which I don't believe.
She knows that I know that the contact continued after she changed her number and said she wouldn't see him again. At the time she stated that "he was nobody" and she was just focused on herself.
To add a little more detail to my original post, our sex life became "maintenance" (her words). I do agree that it was very poor and I have owned a lot of that. I do understand where I went wrong and caused her to feel this way. We now are in the "last resort" stage. She is sleeping in a separate room, barely communicating, and no sexual contact whatsoever. No hugs, kisses, or touching. I believe the entire place she is at is due to the sex/intimacy, but because of how important this is, I don't know if I can get her to ever come around and try again. Especially if there is someone else fulfilling that need. Like I said before, I own my piece of this and am doing everything I can do to get the right support in resolving my issues.
Me-29 W-29 M 5 years (2010) Kids S-6 S-5 W Ring Off: 9/28/15 Filed: 10/12/15
