Hey Emmess, don't fear the D talk, D happened a while back, it is just a paper now.
As far as the assets, don't let her guilt trip you as you know very damn well she isn't at her best state of mind, what woman in their right mind break up a family even when the H is trying to make the necessary changes to be a better H/father.
Don't feel bad for fighting for what YOU think its fair.
It is about YOU and your children now not about her anymore.
Fight for what is right in YOUR mind without anger.
I will be going through this soon but I am here for you man, keep posting brother, may GOD be with us on this journey.