Lou, I'm glad you were able to ask some questions and he provided answers. I'm glad he admitted that he didn't connect w/the ow on an emotional level and it was more on the "f@@k buddy" level, and yes, that dear old word "lust" and/or ego boost came into play. I do not think that many of them can actually say that they "love" the other person because they truly don't know what the meaning of the word "love" is all about.
I'm glad you are taking things slowly and I am also glad he's going to come see you first. You'll be able to determine just where he's at when you actually see him. Listen, but also watch the body language.
I do so hope that the words and actions are in sync for you. You have a lot to look forward to...but keep your expectations low and if he's open to more questions, then ask them. Be honest and direct w/him if he asks what you think or where you are at in the situation. He needs to understand that this can't be swept under the rug, i.e., everything has to become transparent.
I will be thinking and praying for you during this meeting up.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
