Johne, you are doing great. I know it's rough, I know how hard it is and I know that you will make it through it. It just takes strength and time. I implore you, to get the books and read them, read them again and again.
What helped me was I made lists and gave myself small rewards. If I went a day without texting/calling her, I would reward myself. If I went a week without thinking about her, I would reward myself, etc. It's all about the journey my friend.
Me: 38 W: 32 S10 D6 T: 10 (02/2004) M: 7 (12/2007) Separation 02/2015 OM confirmed 01/2015, D mentioned 12/2014 D finalized 9/2016
It gets easier and easier everyday. For me, anytime I get the urge, I think about if my expectation has any chance of being met. It, of course, does not and I know I will feel 10 times worse after I contact her.
Not thinking about her is harder, but it is getting there.
Silly question. Our anniversary is the November first. I did aske her if she wanted anything and that if she didn't tell me then I would just buy her something. That was before I told her I was done trying. Should I give her anything. Like a card or something like that, or ignore the day. We area still married even though we are separated. Divorce is filed. Just wanting opinions. I ordered Stella on dvd. It was her moms favorite movie and she has passed away.
