Lost - I can only tell you about my personal experience with NC.
I went complete no contact, my h started to email me every couple of months, just a "hi, how are you" one. I returned with light chit chat and nothing more. Then a few months ago he rang me, he talked about how his life has turned to custard and how much he misses me in his life. He also said he had wanted to contact me many times but did not feel he had the right to do so after what he did to us. Even today, now we are communicating again, I try not to contact him first.
NC works for both of you. It gives you the breathing space to start walking on your own path. If you contact your h he could see it as pursuing him, he currently wants his freedom, not to have to answer to anyone but himself. It does not matter if you did not talk any r, you are a reminder of his old self, the one he is currently running from. I know it is hard but remain strong and distract yourself when you feel the temptation, the feeling will pass and you will be pleased you didn't give in.
It sounds like your c may not be fully understanding of a MLC so be careful of what advice is given.
