Phew! Glad you took it all in the way it was meant.
Good for you, beckyb! What you've said above shows significant progress in detaching; be reactive to his requests, but don't prioritise them. Guide him towards organising himself around you not vice-versa.
If he does bring up the death thing again, ask him how long she's got to live, his reaction will tell you whether he's faking or not. Best not to mindread or glean anything from any snooping activity.
Get on with your life and see what happens; being an observer, of crappy things in your life, rather than a participant is such a good place to be, it's a bit like going to a movie except you don't have to pay silly prices for popcorn and drinks but you can leave a mess behind and not worry about it because someone else will clear it up.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
