I think you are right on target. This typical passive-aggressive behavior and very much like H. Most of the time I don't respond. this time he was so disrespectful I couldn't stay silent. I remained respectful though.
However, I don't believe OW has a terminal illness. I think she has Lupus, which is chronic and serious, but not terminal. It would be just like my H to exaggerate. I could be wrong but if she really did have a terminal illness and they wanted to marry ASAP he would be moving things forward. Instead he is dragging his feet and accusing me of not moving forward.
I believe her illness does make him feel like a hero. He has been sick a lot in the last few years and probably has not felt like a hero in a long time.
I also believe playing up the illness and saying he has been falling out of love with me for a long time are his way of trying to justify his behavior, which he knows is wrong and hurtful.
H is giving up everything for this woman who is, at the very least, physically ill and morally questionable. He is losing me, a comfortable lifestyle, his brothers and many friends. At some point he may wake up and realize what he's done. He may not.
His text was very hurtful and set me back a bit but strengthened my resolve to move on. I won't stand in the way of the D but I'm not going to do anything more to push it forward. He has not responded at all to my settlement proposal. The ball is in his court.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
