You will never figure her out, I think since she is completely done with you in her mind, now she sees the changes you are making and she thinks its unfair like how come you didn't make these changes before..
I have heard this from my W, we are just a little too late.
You know what. Her saying these things means she really doesn't know what to do or think. If I think I know your wife and she is like mine she said that you can not change. You are confusing her. Keep the course.
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M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
I finally asked him after he tells me that is wife says my W is doing the same things she did. I asked him if he minded if i speak with her to get her view of things. He was stunned and said, I never thought of that. we are being so rational about everything and they are not rational.
(Sandi - banging her head against the wall.)
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Sandi, be careful! Don't hurt yourself... A lot of us rely on your input! Haha
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I think we all heard " I know you and you can't or won't change". I tried to explain people change All the time and gave examples, I know bad idea! She just shook her head. Funny thing is she changed more than anything!!
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Something that I haven't really talked about here is my S7 and the changes that I am seeing in him. Today I received a call from the school. This is the third time since BD. His teacher said that he was complaining that he was having trouble breathing. He told the teacher that he has asthma. He does not however have asthma. I was able to talk to him and calm him. He stayed at school today.
He got into a fight yesterday at soccer practice and has been very disrespectful lately. THis is not him at all. I don't know if this is a natural phase or if he is acting out because of the Sitch.
Also, he has been wetting the bed a lot lately. He did this when he was younger and I thought that he had out grown it. However he has stared again.
Has anyone here experienced anything like this with their kids? Do you guys think his behavior is normal 7 year old boy behavior or is it a result of the sitch. Of course I cant talk to the W about it. I told her early on that the sitch would cause the kids pain and she stated that she thought that they would be fine.
I would like to tell her that her actions were effecting the kids but I know this is not a good idea.
These are just a few examples of S7. My D12 and S10 have been fighting a lot and disrespecting each other. This is not normal for them either. They have always got along for the most part other than a fight occasionally.
I think it is a mix of reasons for the older kids. My D is 12 and is going through the natural changes for a girl her age but I cant help but think that the sitch is effecting them.
M:39 W:40 S:10 S:7 D:12 BD:3/5/15 Separate BR:3/5/15 W moved out with kids 1/3/16
