Dealing With Walk Away Girlfriend With "Issues"

[Scotsman]

Just a little update on my sitch - my ex wanted to visit with me last Tuesday. We chatted for about 1.5 hrs. She brought up some R talk, seemed very interested to know "where I was at", also was concerned for my wellbeing as she's aware she's "being doing nothing for our relationship" whereas I'd been doing "lots". She was also keen to share with me the work she has been doing to address her issues regarding her mother's suicide. Pleased to hear this. A very nice visit and then no contact 'til last Saturday when I received a Facebook message from her. She was very upset to discover I'd unfriended her on Facebook (I did this 2 months ago, the day after the breakup). She said she felt rejected and she would "try and get over it". The rejection comment was ironic to me, given the situation. I told her I was sorry she felt that way and expressed surprise that she was so affected by it. She wanted to meet me face to face to "chat about it all" and invited me to her house the next day.

The next day went great (although no chat about the Facebook??), got there about 2:30, we swam together and I played some guitar on the dock by the lake ( she always loved my playing and she was eyes closed with serenity while I played). She asked me to teach her how to make curry and we had a lovely joint cooking session. She said I was welcome to stay the night, which I did, separate beds of course! Before bed we went for a nice walk - just nice chat, nothing heavy.

The next morning, she came through with a cup of coffee and she sat on the futon, where I slept, and had a good chat, then I left for work. Three days, haven't heard from her since and I'm not initiating contact for the moment.

All in all, I think she's interested but cautious, she said to me on Saturday she was "still working out how vulnerable to be with me".

I think I have done a good job of loving detachment, being kind and calm around her, no R talk on my part and supporting her healing journey.

Think I will continue to back off and only respond to her contacts and see where things go.

The only thing, for now I think I will modify, is not to be so transparent about my feelings when she asks, as this feels rather one sided, as she's "not there" at the moment. The fact she wants to know this seems to tell me the door is still open for her.

Any thoughts/comments/advice welcome!

Thanks for stopping by:)