confused newbie 2

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So I will give a recap, please let me know where I can improve things:

I believe that my W is a WAW, not WW. She is still not seeing all that will be changed by her decision, but there is no A, and she feels justified that I wouldn't ever change. But, I have changed some things, and I know that I have much more work to do. Not sure how much work W is doing on her half, but that isn't on me. W told me that she wants out of our marriage because she doesn't want to work on us. She admitted that it can be resolved, but she doesn't trust what I have done so far.

In the past week, she has done more things that seem like the "normal" us. Asking me to do things, joking around, texting, calling, wanting to sit by me. Etc.

I have told her more of my feelings, against DB but it's a 180. I asked her not to sit with me until she is ready to work on us again. Asked her if a decision regarding S8 was really in his best interest, or so she could hang out with the other couples that she had put ahead of our M. Told her that I am here now and willing to do my share, but that may not always be the case. Probably screwed up a bunch more, unintentionally pressured her, etc. I feel horrible for doing some of this, because it feels like I may push her away if she tries to reconnect with me. But, I have to have a little distance in order to detach like I need to do. I do not want to do anything to hurt my chances of saving the M.

Please show me how to handle the things I have failed on better in the future. What has to happen for her to regain trust in me? I think that is a major hurdle for us getting back to working on R. The advice from friends WAW seems very much in line with DB, and that is the direction I feel I need to go. I have to be stronger and happier to become more attractive and be a better catch. I do not want to feel the way I have for any amount of time more than absolutely necessary. So, time to focus on me and my boys, and TRY to not focus on her.

Please, any advice is helpful!