New marriage over pt3--filed for divorce

[Avanti]

Hello Aj8. I am new to your sitch and am not fully up to speed, you do seem to be getting some great guidance from some top notch guys.

What jumped out at me from your last few posts, is that you seem to be giving up. If you are going to do so, consider these three reasons first. Are you doing it because:

You are feeling hurt?
You are feeling frustrated?
You feel you are up against the wall?

If it's any, or all of these, then rethink your plan and goals the start acting on them and become solution oriented as a result.

I know this is tough, it's what DB'ing represents are you up to it?

The only reasons for giving up, none of which I see in your posts are:

You are in an abusive relationship
You refuse to do any more, You've hit my limit, you are not prepared to do anymore, your sitch has gone on too long. Your boundaries have been broken too many times. 
Your W is in a permanent relationship, i.e. has got married

Sorry if this appears tough and you don't know me, so feel free to ignore me. I simply see someone who needs to remind themselves of what they stand for and there's no softly, softly way to do that, sometimes a few feathers need ruffling.

Avanti formerly known as Beagley but with the help of DB, I turned some significant corners and a name change seems appropriate.