ok.. I'm new and I think I figured out how to start my own thread? thank you to those who helped me.
M 21 years S-20 D-18 March 2015 separated. I moved out. H -57 me -57
I am trying to go dark just now. I know my husband.. I still can't call him my 'ex' is setting up relationship rendez vous with his match.com dates.
I am not able to sleep very well. I so so want this relationship back. .. so we can work on it.
I was away for 5 weeks and when I came back he gave me a long hug.. and he was different. briefly. apologized for things--which is not like him. When we got into arguments, he said, "I didn't want it to be like this..." He told me all about work struggles (he had gotten suspended for flirting with the secretary) .. He told me all about his arguments with his closest brothers and sister. He was appreciative of how I listened and validated. And then sadly, I know I should n't do this.. but that very day he went online to set up a match.com date with OW out of town. .. she is blond and 11 years younger than me (ouch!) Also , I did things.. like make him dinner nad offer to get his belt fixed at the leather store.. and I think then he feels like "I'm back" and he just goes back to his search for 'hot sex'.. I know that's something he thinks will be much better 'out there'
now he's calling to work out money and saying things like .. why have you been so out of touch? (in voicemail mssg) and hten things like "well I guess that's how it will be then"
oh help me with this. I amtrying so hard to sustain the grief. I have run my 3rd race and 3rd triathlon in an effort to GAL. I am having a friend to dinner tomorrow.. but I am just infinitely sad.. so soo sad. I don't know how to unhook and move on.. so right now I am pretending. My therapist suggested I start dating.. in an effort to get his attention and signal I'm not waiting around.
please offer any thoughts you have.. I am in so much pain.
