You sound like an amazing guy with regard to the anniversary and sending a card I asked these questions and most said do not bother in the end I found the most basic of cards just said happy anniversary and gave it to her with the words 17 years ago we were the happiest couple on the planet I am thinking of you on our special day ...she opened it and said nothing to me....so,do not expect if you send something for it to make any difference
I feel your,sitch
Take great care of yourself
Ghost
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.