All moms know that when dealing with kids, a smooth day is a rare day and you have to give some slack. Really, The only thing that matters is that they are well supervised and safe. (Although I prefer they eat healthy too) A month ago my son got both his legs stuck in the elevated tic tac toe portion of the playground equipment. While he was screaming I had to hold up his torso so he wouldn't be hanging upside down, and keep my other son by my side. An entire camp group surrounded us while the counselors were trying to help me get his legs out! And yeah we missed swim lessons because of it.
I don't want to project my own issues on your situation, because I'm not a mind reader and I don't agree with your wife's actions or criticism but just to offer a different view point... perhaps she does not want parenting to be easy for you. Maybe she wants that acknowledgement that taking care of the kids is tough and stressful and maybe she wants to be appreciated as well, for being capable at the most important job in the world?
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
