I was like you guys. I sat around "our" big empty house, pondering the past, obsessing over what she was doing or who she was with. Texting, calling, checking her FB page, etc. Then I said "enough" and got out there and did something about it. I took dancing classes, cooking classes, read books I always wanted to read, got involved in my church, etc. All of it and everything to get my mind off of her. Half the time I would fall in bed at the end of the night completely exhausted because I was going so hard.
For years my WW begged me to go dancing. I had no time for it, wasn't my thing. I spent some serious money buying us dancing lessons hoping to "save" my marriage. She balked and never went, they were going to expire so I went on my own. Sure it was weird the first class, even a little bit on the second class, but I ended up having a lot of fun doing so. And now that I am sorta dating, girls freak out when they see that I can actually hold my own on the dance floor.
Think about your future with out her/him. Think about everything that you were told that you would never do and do it! Write a novel, visit a place you always wanted to, go see your old high school friend who moved across the country, look up an old flame on FB and see what they are up to, go skydiving/bungie jumping, take your kids fishing or to a ballgame, whatever, just something. Get up, get motivated and get active!
Me: 38 W: 32 S10 D6 T: 10 (02/2004) M: 7 (12/2007) Separation 02/2015 OM confirmed 01/2015, D mentioned 12/2014 D finalized 9/2016
