So W came home last night and gave me a warm hug. We had a glass of wine while we caught each other up on stuff. I left printout on her dresser and went to bed. The printout was about the 24 things a cheater should do to help the betrayed heal. She confronted me with that this morning and seems a bit upset. She said if I think the A was the problem then I'm delusional. The problem is all the stuff that lead up to her having an A. The A was just a symptom of that. Then she went around the mulberry bush a hundred times again dredging up my past "sins". I said I had to go (I did have to) and left, saying we'd talk later. Later it was the same old stuff again...
But she did want me to book us an appt with our MC. So I think that is a positive step. She feels we need a neutral third party to mediate our differences of opinion. She doesn't like when I tell her that I can see that she feels a certain way and that her perception of events is valid. She says I'm patronizing her, claiming that me saying her viewpoint is her perception is basically calling it inaccurate. I disagreed, saying that everyone has their own perception of things and that is based on their point of view which is different in everyone - hence her call to get our MC to referee.
The dance continues. I sent MC an email - waiting for a reply.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014
