Wife left, and I've only made it worse.

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Johne. You need to just stop for 5 minutes, take a deep breath and be the bigger person. Read your first post, your messages, your emails etc from an outsiders perspective and the reality might sink in a little.

How can you fix it? Simple. Leave her alone! Do the last resort technique. Fall off the face of the earth. She texts, ignore it. She calls, send it to VM. She tries to pick a fight, say "There is nothing to fight over" and walk away. It might go against EVERYTHING you want to do, but it WILL throw her through a loop. You are a reactive person, so she knows how to push your buttons for said reaction. Guess what? She is showing your rants to her friends (and possibly the OM) to gain sympathy. She will use them against you. If she doesn't have that as back up, then what? Be proactive man, you can do this.