Haha not a chance of saying it azz! That is why I put the first sentance of the post on. I was basically saying it here to get it off my chest.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Eye, I just saw we cross posted a little while back. That would be a sight to see with your gymnastics class! I know it [censored] but we are all here and we are all growing as people! This place is amazing, without it I don't know where I would be? Prolly still buying roses and doing drive by snooping! Haha all that stuff that we do to shoot ourselves in the foot before we know better.
Now for the most part I leave her alone. Giving that precious time and space she ripped our family apart for. Communication is only about S4 from my end, from time to time it seems like she relaxes and wants to "chat". I just listen and take it all in.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Glad to hear it buddy. Believe me, I get the urge to go to my WW's house, grab her by the shoulders, shake some sense into her and then ride off into the sunset as a family. BUT it's not going to happen.
It's hard not to go back to the flowers, letters and love texts, but it's completely counterproductive. It's not going to change their mind, it's not like she is going to read some letter and say "Hmmmm... He brings up a valid point". It's like arguing politics on FB, sure you can get it off your chest but it does absolutely nothing to change the other person's mind.
As for the gymnastics classes, find something similar for your son. I can't believe how many fathers don't do these things with their sons, almost like "If it's not (baseball/football/soccer) I am not doing it" is the attitude. It's a completely untapped resource for women and their advice. Many have given me ideas on how to get her back, but I really don't think I want her back anymore.
Me: 38 W: 32 S10 D6 T: 10 (02/2004) M: 7 (12/2007) Separation 02/2015 OM confirmed 01/2015, D mentioned 12/2014 D finalized 9/2016
I agree fully eye! No changing somebody's mind who doesn't see anything wrong with thier actions! I found a little while back, that if I get the urge to say something, but come here and type it out instead it kinda helps with the urge. I know it's weird, it doesn't even make sense to me but it seems to work for me . So, go with what works! Haha
I've had those same thoughts about shaking some sense into her! Just listen to me for 10 minutes and everything will be fine!!!!! Haha obviously it wouldn't work, but it sounds like a great idea at times... If we could find a "magic shake" we could be internet millionaires!
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Exactly buddy. My WW doesn't believe she did anything wrong when she had her EA (possibly a PA, not sure). She blames me for it and refuses to look at it as a reality. Last time we got into a big fight about it, it was because she was making up stories why she left. I corrected people with the truth and even offered the OM's phone # along with name. When she found out she was livid, claiming I was ruining her "good name". I then pointed out "If you didn't do anything wrong, why are you so upset? I know you cheated, you know you cheated, everyone knows you cheated now..."
Me: 38 W: 32 S10 D6 T: 10 (02/2004) M: 7 (12/2007) Separation 02/2015 OM confirmed 01/2015, D mentioned 12/2014 D finalized 9/2016
Tonight is kinda funky, I'm not sure what triggered it but I am really missing XF and wishing things were "normal". Haven't had a back rub in months. Haven't had sex in months. Not even a hug other than S4... Haven't had anybody to "really" talk to. Empty dinner table. Nobody to tell how much I love them...
Gotta shake this quick, it will drive me nuts (or nuttier than I already am!) haha
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Tonight is kinda funky, I'm not sure what triggered it but I am really missing XF and wishing things were "normal". Haven't had a back rub in months. Haven't had sex in months. Not even a hug other than S4... Haven't had anybody to "really" talk to. Empty dinner table. Nobody to tell how much I love them...
Gotta shake this quick, it will drive me nuts (or nuttier than I already am!) haha
I hear you man. Sunday marked 6 months since the last time for W and me. And all that other stuff too.
But it'll happen again, once were ready for all of it.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Ha, come to think of it... It was the day we got engaged!
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
. So, go with what works! Haha