W, I have been thinking about how you feel I have been occupying all of the kids time and you are not getting the time with them that you want. I know that It must have felt terrible. I also know that we both want to spend as much time as possible with the kids.
Saying that, I believe that if we work together in making a schedule for having equal time with the children, then hopefully, each of us will have time to share in their activities. I am open to suggestions on how we sort this out, but I have given it some thought and have a few ideas

The less you throw in "I know" and "I believe", the less it will sound as if you are pushing this down her throat. She needs to feel this isn't all about you and your bright ideas, and that she gets to have a say about it. When you say you are open to suggestions....and then add, "but I have given it some thought and have a few ideas".....it sounds as if you are steam roller over really listening to her. At least, to me, it sounds that way.

I believe a LBH and father needs to be decisive. There is a time and a way to handle things, and this time the way is with kit gloves. Then, if she won't agree to an equal time, you may have need to think about going through the court.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!