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Thanks for reaching out. ..


Me 34 H 33
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Overcom,

As many before me have said "it is over when you say it is over." You can stop anytime you want. You do not have to let him make that decision for you.


Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs
EA: Started 3/2015
MC Started: 4/2015
She moved out and served 6/2015
PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015
2 young kids

"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
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Originally Posted By: overcom
He filed 50/50. Everything mutual.
I see my L on Wednesday. It's done. I have no more hope. Once he's done he's done. He won't come back. .. my life will never be the same.


overcom -

It's time to live up to your name. Just because your life wont be the same, it doesnt mean it has to be WORSE. I believe that you can still turn things around, but it could be many months or years. You keep standing as long as you think you should.

But keep in your mind that change is not always bad. Use this time to grow and become the best you that you can.

Your life is not over.

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I need to learn how to set boundaries. I want him to move out. And now I'm worried about filing 50/50


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Overcome, I am so sorry.

Maybe I missed this part, but OW is a druggie, right? And you have 2 small children. Is there a way to keep them away from her?



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He knows better. I'll fight with all my might. Over my dead body he'll take them to see her.


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Overcome, you know I am right here with you, right? I've gotten the D papers, OW is involved, all feels hopeless?

Personally, the past few days have been really hard for me, so I've been fairly quiet. I know this, though. My life will never be the same, but I will do everything in my power to make my life a good one - with or without him. I am working on myself, for me.

It's all I have right now. It's a really good place to start. Join me? Let's get stronger, better...


Me: 48 H: 50 - Married 21 - 3-S: 29,19,19 2-D: 27,26
BD: 08/2015 - D filed & OW disc: 09/2015

"Surrender to What Is, Let Go of What Was, Have Faith in What Will Be." -S Ricotti
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I'm in... photo you in too... I wish we lived closer so we could have a girls club. Lol


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Originally Posted By: overcom
I need to learn how to set boundaries. I want him to move out. And now I'm worried about filing 50/50


I will read through your sitch and see if we can discuss this.

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Thanks vanilla..I'll be waiting

Last edited by overcom; 09/22/15 04:39 PM.

Me 34 H 33
Married 2006
S5 D2
BD Jan 2015 EA/PA
He moved out 2/2/2015
Came back 5/2015
Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
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