Where do I go from here, pt. 3

[beckyb]

Here is a summary of my sitch recently. H countered my petition for legal separation with a petition for divorce on July 27. He didn't tell me he was doing it and then apologized up and down for surprising me. Then he did nothing with D for over a month when he said my attorney was dragging his feet. Mind you he hasn't moved all his stuff, hasn't changed his address on stuff etc.
Last week we got court dates, which are in Jan. and Feb. -first available. We don't have to wait for trial. H can submit a settlement proposal any time.
Saturday he texted to asked if I chose a January court date to drag things out in hopes he would change his mind. He said he planned to marry OW as she has a terminal illness and he wants me to move things along. Said he had fallen out of love with me a little at a time. He didn't mean to. He was sorry. He hopes I can forgive him Wow.
The next morning I called his bluff. I sent an email say the reason D had not moved forward was because he and his attorney had done nothing, and I attached my settlement proposal.
The next day he responded to say he was sorry. He shouldn't have sent the text but that he wanted me to know the marriage is truly over.
I asked my L why his L wasn't advising how to move forward. He said they were waiting for me to make a move because H had anxiety about finalizing.
My DB coach said it sounds like the text was sent for OW'S benefit. He wishes I had not responded to H. I felt his text was so disrespectful that I had to respond. And I responded in a respectful manner.

The ball is in his court. I'm anxious but fully trusting God with the outcome.