hold on!! - 12

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Agree w/ the others, let the score card go. That's only a recipe for friction that will affect everyone's quality of life.

Also, when there are children involved, my attitude is give a little more than you might to keep a healthy, peaceful co-parenting relationship and so that kids know you dealt fairly and generously w/ your S, despite their being the one who walked. It will pay dividends in the future.

I know this has to happen to keep our kids whole. It really is something I can do because it really is who I am - I have not been too successful at maintaining grudges with anyone anyway. I want the kids to learn about that from me.

I will do this for the kids. Though the one thing that I worry about with all of this is, I don't know how this will happen if the relationship with XW and THIS OM progresses. I don't know how I would be able to face that. I do realize that we will both probably move on to other Rs, but this OM will always have those choice words that run through my head associated with him. Nothing I can do about any of that and not to worry about it today.

Thanks asitis