hold on!! - 12

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In the UK these orders are called Mesher orders. You can try googling this for positives and negatives, it's well trod ground here in the UK and fairly standard stuff, many good articles on it. I know this may be different but the principles will generally apply.

Drop the scorecard U, not helping you. I absolutely know that you have better strategies than that, it may get in the way of achieving the best result for U and his children.

Clear head, breathe and take advice.

Breathe deeply

V

Thanks Vanilla,
From what I read, these mesher orders are forced when there is an imbalance of salaries. This makes sense to protect the kids. In my case, I don't know exactly what we'd be protecting. Salaries are basically the same, now her rent and my mortgage payment will be about the same. I need to find from her if name stays on the house. Another situation of "her's and our's" which is how she's operated for the last two years.

I need to establish clear boundaries about this.

Thanks for the reminder about the old scorecard again. I think it will get much better when she's moved. I hope.

Strange how I was thinking today - what are people going to think of all of this - are they going to ask why and what am I going to tell them and what is she going to tell them?

One day she is just going to be gone from the house and neighborhood - without anyone even knowing there was a problem. I don't even know how long it will take for anyone to notice she's gone. Someday they will ask, where's Mrs. U? "oh - she moved out 4 months ago and we aren't married any more." They will surely think I am joking - we were a great couple.

I work at a school where she also used to work. People often ask about her.

All things to deal with eventually.

Still breathing, still smiling, still laughing....all will be fine.