Does this mean we are entering piecing?

[Missmeg]

Funny how roles change…after BD, I wanted him back and he was pretty much out. Now that I've been changing, I'm not so eager to have him back. I do want to keep the relationship, I do want to resume the marriage, but on my terms.

I don't know who was more surprised tonight. He came over, and wanted to have a long discussion. He told me that he has never stopped loving me, he wants to resume the marriage, and move back in.

I said no.

I told him I needed to see a change in his attitude and actions, that I had been going to IC for a month now and was creating some boundaries that I have not had before. That I needed him to go to IC as well (per our agreement of a couple of weeks ago)and work on some of his issues, and that we needed some more MC as well. That if he moved back in now without addressing the issues that caused him to move out, nothing has changed and he would just up and leave again at some point in the future.

That I was not going to put myself in a place of being abandoned again, so that if and when he does move back in I have to be fairly certain I can trust him to stay and stand and work on problems as they come up.