Cali, Patience! Yep, patient is all you can be right now. Your wife is still trying to grow up and feel comfortable in her own skin. I do like the fact that you are listening and providing her w/tidbits of DBing when she asks for your opinion. She needs to learn how to deal w/her "stuff" and the only way to do that is to work thru them and not around them or look for others to rescue her. This is a new path for her and she's going to have days of one step forward two steps back for quite a while.
The most important thing is to keep the communication lines open, don't rush the process and continue to keep your expectations low. She's got to grow up on her time clock and it's just a wee bit slower than yours.
Again, patience! You've come a long way, but you and your wife still have a ways to go. Always remember, it took her a while to go into crisis and it's going to take her a while to gradually come out of it.
Keep up the good work!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
