Her feelings are not there and when i feel like i am showing her how things can be it seems like i am still pursuing her.
Thats why its important that the changes are for you. For example, I dress one level up from where I used to because it gives me confidence. I dont just do it on days I see my W - I do it every day. Its for me. You want to change and allow her to notice it organically - not change, just to show her you have changed; that wont last.
Originally Posted By: otw
One more thing. The last time we had a disagreement about a month ago she told me that i just think the kids will be taken care of and i can do whatever i want but she has to go through a whole process to make sure things are done. This is actually something that may have been from our M, but during the past 5 months it has not been so. So, now to hear her say i am spending too much time with the kids is shocking. She just does whatever she wants now.
Yep. nothing you do or say will please her right now. She knows that what you had isnt working....but exactly what or why or how wont come until she realizes that the changes she needed were within HER.
