Hello.. havent been on in a while. Things are going good been busy.
Had a little R talk with S. He states that he does not want me to give up thinking that we might be a couple again in the future and that he is figuring things out about himself. I knew this and am glad that he speaking in terms of us having a future. He states he needs to find what makes him happy so that he can be a more enjoyable person when with others makes sense to me.
I had stated that I was not in a hurry or trying to push him into anything that he wasnt ready for. Im not ready myself. But I also stated that I dont want us living apart permanently, that is not what I want for my future. He agreed.
My goal is to be patient, keep my positive attitude and start cleaning up the clutter in the house. Continue to GAL and work on forgiving the A that although it still hurts it just may be one of the best things that could have happened to us.
Thanks for listening
Married 1991 D 32 GD 12 D 30 GD 3 S 29 M 58 S 57 1st bomb 2008 2nd bomb 4/2015 same person New bomb 09/24 I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
Guess who heard an "I love you and I always have" from her spouse last night?
Married 1991 D 32 GD 12 D 30 GD 3 S 29 M 58 S 57 1st bomb 2008 2nd bomb 4/2015 same person New bomb 09/24 I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
That's great news. I'm very happy for you. I hope he will follow up with a sincere offer to really work on your M.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
Hi Lonelee - nice to see some positive news. I'm sure you're already thinking this. but best to keep expectations at a minimim and continue to plough your own furrow. Of course you can increase interactions with H a little, but just offer 75% of what you receive and see how things go.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you guys xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
