I kinda use part of both your techniques... I didn't unfriend or on follow (she doesn't post much and when she does it is usually a pic of S4). But I haven't touched anything with a 10 foot pole since she moved out. I'll look then scroll. Maybe somewhere down the line I will like a pic from time to time to plant that seed but I don't know if now is the time?

I was asked over the weekend to take care of scheduling an appointment and letting her know when it is and also S4 was sick and stayed home from preschool today. She asked me to let her know how he is doing. I made the appointment and sent her a message stating a date and time. Got a 1 word reply back. When I recieved that I waited a few minutes and told her that I just talked to the sitter and S4 seems to be doing better. Another 1 word reply. I just feel like she is making sure not to open the door to anything at this point, let alone conversation. That's fine, day by day, she's just so cold on day and warm the next I would have a hard time telling when to plant the seed that it isn't taken as pursuit right now...


Me 34, XF 27
Many years together
Son 4
Engaged
Not engaged
Many false starts by XF
7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life
2/17 girlfriend moves in my home