Hi Anna, I think it was fair enough to call him out on the 'working' thing. And at least he admitted it, which is good. For sure he sounds pretty confused and pretty bothered about what you may be doing and who with.

As you say, the GAL can feel somewhat forced at times. But on balance it is a good thing for you. I have had those feelings of sudden emptiness during GAL. Equally I have had some great moments and met some lovely people. It is well worth the effort, not only for you, but it is clearly impacting on your H which is no bad thing.

The message you are showing him is that you have no intention of putting your own life on hold while he chooses to conduct a R with a third party. And that's a good, self-respecting attitude to have. I also think you are doing well to resist with the hugs etc and just leave. The message? You don't get to have us both matey. I respect myself too much for that.

Keep it up Anna. As you say, it is tough. But this was never going to be otherwise. I think you are doing well, and the general direction of travel is a good one. That's as much as you can hope for just now I think.

Take care xx

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Me 48 H 46
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus