So I like your example. New goals. - I will spend one hour a day with the kids helping with homework. - I will prepare dinner one night a week for the family. (Something I normally don't do) -I left this one off but I think it fits. I leave for work before anyone wakes up so at 7am I call each of them to tell them I love them and have a great day at school. Ive been doing this for a month or so. -I will spend one hour a week teaching the kids music. I stared this and then stopped. -I will take D12 out for dinner one night a week just the 2 of us. -I will have one boys night out with S7 and S10 once a week.
These are good. Now expand on them to the other areas. You may want to add some personal ones about how you behave or think to help recondition you. Also, I would put a time limit -- a month, 3 weeks, a quarter, etc to give yourself an end point to reevaluate.
Originally Posted By: tkdmme
I like this. im not sure why it took so long to start writing these things out. It makes sense to be specific.
Because it's easy to skip. At the beginning, you have this clear picture "I want my S back...nothing else matters." I did it too. Ive been at this almost 6 months, and just last month I actually put pen to paper to write out goals. Now I know much better what I want, and I can achieve that. But it takes work to figure out what I actually want - and I wasnt ready to actually put in the effort before.
But goal setting is step 2 in DR. It should be hard to miss
