Thank you brother, you have been there to support me through all of this and for that I thank you from the bottom of my heart, we both know this is one of the most painful situations we must go through in life.
But we wouldn't be going through this if GOD didn't think we would overcome it.
I have been DBing for quite sometime with hope and faith, unfortunately it didn't work out for me based on the simple fact that I didn't learn to DETACH emotionally, nor did I ever grieve my W, my Marriage.
I am doing that now and I know the tears will eventually dry up and there will be no more tears.
I am accepting that it is over and she has moved on and so should I.
I feel your pain brother. It is really a heartbreaking and emotional situation we find ourselves in. I know the place in which you are now residing, you will overcome it, grieve your lost, I am still grieving although I am no longer in what I believe was the denial stage (might find myself there again) I feel that this stage is the most hurtful, this were I found myself snooping, obsessing, fighting the reality, causing me anxiety. I still deal with some anxiety but I am in a much better place.
Move forward, you never know what God has in stored for us, you might find yourself with your W sometime in the future and will have the opportunity to build the M that you are looking to have. If not, you will find someone who will bring you as much love, support, and happiness as you do them.
God Bless. I will continue to pray for you and your family. My last piece of advice is, feel your emotions, cry, get angry (but don't let it control you). Go out and continue to GAL.
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
I try not to think so much about the W although it is very hard.
I will try and do things I used to do when my family was together, I haven't been able to be at home and watch TV like I used to. I have neglected my home by staying busy outside of the house.
I am here behind you 100% brother. Start focusing on your man cave, scratch that make it a family cave with the kids. Enjoy them, enjoy your TV, enjoy your home and the joy that kids bring a home. I have faith that things will work out for you, better, stronger, happier than before.
God Bless
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
Thank you, you know I was thinking about that, I will clean out the garage and turn it into a game room or something me and the kids can use, THANK YOU!
Exchange Friday was a bit unusual, NO Conversation at all!
It didn't bother me one bit.
I had a great time with the kids this weekend. BBQed, Visited family, played board games, watched tv.
Will continue to focus on myself and kids. I need to finish up an online course I started a couple months ago. Have a Garage Sale. Turn Garage into Game Room. Spend more quality time at home when I have my kids.
Hey brother....Interesting about the exchange. I am glad to hear that it didn't bother you. This will not go on forever and you both probably need the time and space.
You sound to have had a great time with the kids, that's awesome. I need to do more of what you listed with my boys.
Keep up those goals, they are good short term ones that will keep you busy and will reap lots of benefits. It must be fun to begin designing and thinking about what you will get for the game room, keep us posted as to how that progresses and everything else you are working on.
As always brother, keeping you in my prayers.
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
Passing by to support you. I hope you are continuing to work on yourself and moving forward. I know things have been a bit rough lately but I wish you nothing but the best. Let's continue to get through this storm and come out better men and human beings.
Came across this on Ghost46's thread posted by Sandi, thought you might enjoy it as well:
