Time to let go......how?

[tkdmme]

Yea we share an account and have always shared the account. Before BD she handled paying the bills which she complained about. After BD I took over the bills and making sure everything gets paid on time. Now she complains that she has to ask me for money. I make more than twice her income and she cannot afford her personal bills without my income. This is why I haven't yet split our finances.

She asks how much money she has and the truth is she has none unless you count half of my pay as hers. I want to split the finances but it seems it would cause fights because she would still have to rely on me to pay some of her personal bills.

These situations are insane. Don't you think? I have to see a lawyer today. Have you done this yet? Im a little worried about how much I will be expected to pay her. I want to take care of the kids obviously but I don't want to fund her new life.

We are still in the same house as you are. That adds a whole new level of craziness. I am being accused of things I don't do on a regular basis and its hard not to try to defend myself.

Im trying to stay out of the house and away from her as much as possible. it seems to help. I can see that my R with the kids is troubling her. She said its not fair for me to change now after she is done with the M. What kind of craziness is that. She said she was moving out over a month ago. She is still there. She said that she is still there because she wants a stable environment for the kids. Yet she wants a D. Non of this makes sense.

Hang in there buddy I think we are in for a long battle.