LOL, funny you bring up the bank account. That opens a new story. One complaint from the M was that we were not equal and i controlled all the finances. Without diving into the entire back story, it evolved out of neccessity and we once had a joint account that she spent all of and we never kept it going. After BD i opened a new account in my efforts to show her change and put both names on it and ready to start fresh. She never did anything until i finally told her just do it, it will make separating things easier. She said she need it for groceries ( which i normally do shopping) and things for kids. Needless to say she spends on herself from the account as well, does not put anything in it. I fund it. She has her own accounts as well. She uses her money for when she goies out but joint account for everything else. She ensures i see what she wants me to see. I have gone back and forth with cutting the account off and stating i am more than happy to share with my W the finances but you are walking away and i dont thing i should be supporting her spending if it is not for the kids or house.
I know my emotions are strong in all of this, so i have not acted upon anything.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
