Great to hear about our father and your relationship. I know my mother and i have been much closer during this as well. I share your thoughts about the OM as well. It has been kicked around a bit to hire someone to find out or not for spousal support reasons, but i can not pull the trigger as i dont want the bad news to affect me.

I do realize after reading your post i need to write out some goals and activities to stick to.

M 37
W 34

T 12
M 8
D 7
S 4

Need break 4/12/15
W no ring 7/7/15

Separate room 4/12/15
Separate living suggested 8/15
W moved out 11/1/15