I agree and thought about that when i was in the truck on the way to work. I guess i am wanting to revisit this with her. I think by just saying ok, kept me from doing damage. Like I said, "OK" is better than all of that other stuff. Whats the first thing you do when you discover youre in a hole? Stop Digging!
Do i send her a text saying i have thought about this and understand her feelings and maybe we should set a schedule for a few things. I wouldnt rush and try to hash this out by text. Can you plan to talk with her tonight?
I want to leave this open ended and not just about driving S to school. I do all of the cooking dinner, getting kids ready for school, baths, etc..You could bring this kind of thing up in that conversation. But youll need to be carefult o not project your frustrations with "doing everything" on to her. I think it is time she can not depend on me so much and not just bring up the things she doesnt like. Like this. You cant TELL her she needs to not depend on you. So if you make a schedule, you need to word it in a way so that you want to do what works for everyone. Dont try to push it as she needs to "do her share."
Also do i address my own feelings? Not about what i am angry about her doing or not doing, but me wanting the time with the kids as well? She picks him up and is with him the rest of the day until i get home. shouldnt it not be a big deal if i drive him? I would come it from an angle of collaboration. "We both want to spend as much time as we can with the kids. Lets work together to make a schedule that will maximize each of our times with them. Dont try to trade tit for tat and keep an hourly scoreboard. "Fair" is not always "even"
I really feel she is sensing the kids withdraw from her. She did a lot of yelling this weekend. I am not saying my kids are perfect but she is angry a lot. Lots of reasons she could be angry. Dont try to project your feelings onto her action, I think. Notice that she is angry now, see what behaviors may change that anger to another emotion.
