Let's All Be Like Coffee

[JulieH]

I am glad you are in a good place. I suspect that Moving forward is so much easier then waiting in limbo. (Kind of like md test results. The waiting is the worst part but once you know where you stand you can proceed with action and dignity)

I do understand how frusturating it is dealing with someone that is so far removed from your viewpoint. Kind of like debating with a political hyper vigilante extremist. They are just incapable of rational thought and reflection. It feels like a waste of time to even try. You really have no other option then proceeding with an action that will protect you. It seems like something is clearly black and he keeps saying its white. How do you handle this? You stop playing, which is what you did by filing. His reasoning is just so distorted I get mad when I read this!

I would love to understand psychologically what happens to them to accept this "narcissistic" reasoning? Is it part of their makeup? Something we never recognized in them early on? A weakness they develop because they simply can't handle life? How they were raised? My husband's mom is a big time enabler. I guess it really doesn't matter the whys, but how we proceed.

Personally, I still have to get to that point of proceeding with action. I am still examining my situation making sure it is not white or gray before I make a move. I don't have proof of other woman and I don't really get the feeling there is one anymore. But that whole child support issue is pretty black in everyone's eyes.

So I really look at how you are handling your situation as very helpful. I see you as a success story because of how graciously you are handling this and because of how much you have going for you.