I truly love my W and I hope there is not another man but it sure feels like something like that is going on. I cant even ask her. even if I did she would deny it.
If you need to know the truth, asking about it is the last thing I would advise. Im sure theres some secret spy stuff you can get to try to figure it out. But if you suspect it, its likely not just your imagination. Do you need the hard proof?
Originally Posted By: tkdmme
I have never felt so out of control of my own future and the future of my kids.
Dont let your W have this power over you. YOU are in control of your own life. YOU are in control of your relationship with your kids.
Originally Posted By: tkdmme
I have tried everything and nothing has worked. Even DBing doesn't seem to have an effect on her.
Its only been 2 months total. Are you giving things enough time to really take hold? Do you have goals somewhere? Do you have some list of signs of how you know something is "working"?
Originally Posted By: tkdmme
How long can this last?
Take whatever you longest idea of it lasting is. Then double it. Then double it again. Keep doubling. Thats how long it COULD last. But I assume that at some point, you may decide that you are finished before that happens.
Originally Posted By: tkdmme
I just feel like the W has opened my eyes to some things and that I could be the H and father that im supposed to be. I am getting closer and closer with my kids. We have been alone together a lot since this all started. However I feel like she is robbing me of the chance to fully be the father I could be.
There is nothing stopping you from being the father you want to be. It sounds like you are headed that way. Keep going. Eventually, you will get the chance to be the husband you want to be to someone - use this time to learn about yourself and how you think that version of tkd should be. You are in control of You.
