Tough situation alright. I can relate to your stay of emotions and the repeated cycles of them. I often read up on you but don't post because I have imited advice.Wanted you to know someone cares though.

Flirting may help ego but not sure you are in a place where anything like, hat or more is healthy. Just my opinion as I know for a fact I am not in à place that could envisage someone new. But I know that in time I will have a lot to offer a new R. Like you I hope that ends up being wiW. Also like you I question why I still want my W. Regardless of why, today I do. Tomorrow will be another choice.

Hope L visit goes well and brings you peace of mind

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together