You have been at this far longer than I, so I feel kind of silly even posting. You have shown yourself to be wise and I can honestly say that I respect your opinion. That said, I have been toying with the idea of dating, just toying mind you, because I always stop myself. Two things help, one I picked up on this board and I am sure you have heard it.
If your H came to you and wanted to R, would you be interested? If the answer to that is yes, it really isn't fair to the other person you may be dating.
Second. W has been seeing OM for some time and I can really get behind the justification you're talking about. The whole part where the spouse isn't being loyal, so why should you? I have asked myself the same question many times and each time it is the same answer. I am not her, the fact that I am married still matters to me and will continue to matter until I am divorced. Now this isn't to say that a LBS who decides to date is wrong. I don't think they are in the slightest, it is just how I have chosen to answer that question we must all ask ourselves from time to time.
God Bless you, Sotto. You are definitely a woman only a fool would leave.
M: 38 W: 37 T: 20 M: 19 Kids: Stepson?20, S19, S16, D12 BD: 02/19/2015 (She moved out) PA Confirmed: 02/22/2015 (She is now living with OM) Dazed and confused: 09/13/2015
