You have so much going for you and so many great opportunities ahead of you. As I read your posts (and many other posters here) I just feel like your husband is going to really end up regretting this. I don't know about him leaving a note from OW, but I do question her character and lack of self respect. What type of woman does that? Seriously? She's pathetic. Time will be on your side, because as you know a relationship like that can't last. I'm new at this, but do you think the fact that he knows your still waiting for him and willing to be with him when he's ready, prolongs this? He might not be worried about losing you because he knows how much you want to reconcile?
Very interesting about the counseling though.
As for weight loss, perhaps a nutritionist might be helpful? Personally, I find that completely eliminating sugars and the bad carbs and even a lot of dairy is more helpful than allowing for some indulging because then you no longer have the cravings and can reboot your love for the healthy foods. Think of it as in reaching 5 days without sugars and then you no longer crave them. Relying on filling healthy fats like avocado and hummus and nuts has also been helpful to me. trust me, after a couple of weeks of this, you will actually find the indulging foods too sweet and nauseating. It's also a great motivator when you see results quicker. If you can divorce bust this will be a piece of cake (no pun intended )
Yes, she is pathetic. Bad enough having A with married man, but to come in and stay in my home on multiple occasions is over the top. She is disgusting. I did also find out that she did go visit him while he was traveling the month of July. No wonder he was all freaked out when his parents surprised him at hotel at one of the locations a few weeks back. She may have been there.
I am actually in a really good place. I am strong enough to keep moving forward with D. I am by no means certain I would blindly and automatically R with H.
Just a few comments that came up in our conversation: - he is still livid that I packed up his things and put them in garage. He still does not get my boundry that I would not tolerate A in my home and how that was a violation of my personal space. -all I care about is money and stuff. Doesn't understand why my filing was in part to protect finances. Yes, I did and do worry about money, and because of that he graduated three degrees and we have zero debt. We could have been splitting up debt instead of savings. -that I was too focused on A and not on saving our M.
Yes, I was very focused on A, but in the end I am still not sure it was a bad thing. As long as A is going on, we were never going to be at point to work on M anyway. At least I got to point to expose and it to bring it to light where it can start to die out. I was not going to sit there and pretend it was not happening and ignore his lies. If I lose my M because working to find out truth and exposing his A to him, so be it. I have too much self-respect to live like that.
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
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