Got here late... but I'm here now.

[duke]

Judy and V you have no idea how much I appreciate your time, caring and advice here. I am truly touched. Now, I have good news and I have bad news.

First the good news:

I picked all 3 up around noon and went grocery shopping before. I made them lunch, chatted and just looked at each of them with a big dumb smile while they ate. After reading some of V's and J's posts I could really appreciate how different and special each of them are. This visit I did not pressure them in any way. I kept the visit fun and light. We watched sports, shows, played board games, read and the best part - had a dance party complete with the Patrick Swayze Dirty Dancing move! It was awesome. I made a point to do something special with each of them that they liked. Just before it was time to go I gave them the "10 minute warning" and they actually didn't want to leave. "just 10 more minutes Daddy". It felt so good and was such a great afternoon. I told them each they are welcome here any time and can come and go as they please. The older one (D14) was a little strange but I think it was because D11 and D9 were driving her nuts. She was also very tired, fell asleep in the guest room and wanted to go home early which was fine. I told her if she ever wants to get away from her sisters to think of this as her own private pad where she can hang out, listen to music, study, whatever she wants to do. I offered to give her a key and even said I would be away the entire time if she wanted to just be alone. She seemed to like the idea. My heart is breaking for her because she seems so sad, confused and mad. I am dying to reach out to her but I have to be so careful.