Disgusted Stay at Home Daddy

[mahhhty]

Well then. Step 1 is simple.

No more relationship on any level with the OM.

It is time to draw a hard line. If she can't follow it, then she needs to leave.

[mattdad]

Well we had a good day today, and she called OM, and told him that she still has "conflicted feelings". He started crying, and told her to "stop playing with his emotions".

She told him she "feels wrong about all this, and that she will never really stop loving me".

He told her to "never contact him again, under any circumstance".

She seems angry at me now.

[mahhhty]

Of course she is. He was a drug and now she is in denial. Pay attention to what happens.

[mattdad]

She says she was possessed by a demon. SHe is dead serious about it. She says she would literally hear a demon telling her bad things about me. Justifying all her perverted actions.

She says she enjoyed the fact that OM knew nothing about her past. She had OM believing that I was her only other lover in life. She told me she just wanted to keep getting gifts from him for as long as she could.

Im gonna have a heck of a time trusting her, but she IS my wife of nearly 10 years. We start therapy/counseling in three days.

[mahhhty]

Be careful with counseling make sure the therapist is pro marriage and that you both are invested in it.

As for demons. That's strange to me. I'd be interested to hear what a professional thinks.

[rd500]

Hi Mattdad. I've being following your thread and it's like reading a horror story. I'm so sorry this is happening to you and I really wonder if you need to take time away from her to think on your own feelings.

If what she's telling you is true re all the sexual encounters and taking gifts off OM and then blaming demons for it !! What would you say to a close mate if his W did this to your friend ????

Do you both need to go to therapy ?? I don't want to be rude but your W defiantly needs serious help. You may need therapy just to deal with what's she's done

Take time for Mattdad to see what he really wants and don't just rush into trying to reconcile because that's your first instinct.

Take care. Rd

[mattdad]

Out of the blue she texted me this

You have such a great personality, you are forgiving, you are a great daddy, you know how to make me smile even when Im mad, you are the reason I have been successful in work, and school, and you have a great relationship with the Lord which is beautiful. You deserve so much better than me. Its never been your fault for me doing what Ive done. Im so sorry I crushed you.You are considerate, and you love so deeply.

I responded. Thank you wife.

She responded. I love you so much, and you have a sexy body. I was looking through old pics, and getting turned on by you. I showed your pics to my coworkers today, and they all asked me what wrong with me for cheating on you.

I aint responded to that because I don't know what to say. It kinda pisses me off that she is showing them that stuff. It seem so high schoolish to me.

[WhyUs]

Wow, some strange stuff. Definately make sure the IC or MC is a good one. Sounds like some serious mental issues.

[mattdad]

Mental issues run in her bloodline. Her Mom was a suicidal, multiple personality, narcissistic, kleptomaniac, nymphomaniac, and violent pill addict.

My W found her face down in a puddle of urine in Feb. of 2014 dead from an overdose. Things have never been the same since then.

My W, and I were the last two people on earth that hadn't exiled her. We were her only family. That was a hard thing for both of us, but especially for my W.

[mahhhty]

Wow. That has to be very traumatic. Is she seeing anyone on her own?