Confused newbie

[Sotto]

Hi Dday, without reading back through your threads - have you read DR or DB? If your W has asked for a D, you'll want to move to LRT. At the moment, some of the stuff you are doing isn't a good idea.

I asked her why she wanted to sit together at events - you're initiating a R talk - that's a no no.

It confused things and hurt me - best not to tell her how you feel right now

Told her I am still working on me - it's best to show not tell

And maybe someday she would see it and what me back - this just makes you sound needy and desperate

I told her to take time out to find out what would make her happy - I don't think you're hearing her here. She is telling you she is done - not that she wants to take some time out and think about things. You're trying to mitigate here.

Based on your description of the convo above, I think you need to read (or re-read) either DR or DB and start with some of the DBing basics.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but I do want to help and some of the stuff you are saying is just likely to push your W further away right now.

Please try and trust the DB process my friend.