Thanks V. Yes, there is much to celebrate about her life. She was a great little companion for many years, bless her.

RD, thanks for the vote of confidence. Grace and control...I'm not sure I always see myself that way. I see myself as - altogether somewhat more messy!!

Ah, attractive colleague. Well, I have known this guy for almost 20 years. Not well, but I have always thought what a nice guy he is. He was always M during our acquaintance, but D last year. I don't know the circumstances.Part of me could certainly be tempted into a date. I have already thought that if he is in my area, I could go out for a drink with him on a friendly basis. I guess I just worry that:

a) it is a slippery slope....a friendly drink leads to another etc. etc.
b) I am married, and I don't want to be 'married and dating.'
c) If H wanted us to R, I think I would want to give it a try (depending on circs of course.)
d) I could be honest about c. - but then if he was happy to date me on that basis, would I be happy to date him?

So, in answer to your Q. Heck, yes I could well be tempted. Let's face it, my H has been living it up with a 29 year old for the past 18 months....part of me says, hey why wouldn't I? Whether that is truly what I want and whether it would be a good idea for me is another thing entirely. And something I would really want to think about. I think the bottom line for me is that until I am truly 'done' dating doesn't feel like a good plan at all. I guess it's just a bit hard to keep up the DB momentum when there is a nice, attractive guy who seems interested in me.

that's where I am on it all anyway.. and thanks for asking the question (do you regret asking it now?? grin)

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T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus