W stopped by, and we made an agreement on child support that should keep us out of court. I asked her why she wanted to sit together at events. She said that she realized that was very mean of her to ask of me. She says that she has gradually detached and I haven't. I told her that I couldn't do it, not to be mean, but that it confused things and hurt me. And the boys. Told her that i am still working on me, and maybe someday she would see it and want me back. Asked her about her comments about the concert. She said that it was something she would probably never do again, because that was an "us" thing. Told me that she still sees me as a friend that she could tell anything. As she was leaving, I told her to take time to find out what would make her happy. She said that she doesn't blame me. I told her that she must, or we would still be together.
I am sure I screwed some things up, but I feel like I made some gains too. Seems like she is seeing some of the consequences for this. That may help my M. Maybe it is a baby step?
Last edited by dday; 09/20/1508:24 PM.
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....
