Rd, every day you give me a little lift as you've really got your head around things and allow humour in even when as you say things are tough and you really don't feel like laughing or see it as appropriate given the pain that's being experienced.
Like you, at one point, I really struggled and wondered whether life was worth continuing with but you are one of those that really helped me see what life really has to offer, even when someone so close throws in a hand grenade, then looks to blame you for the explosion.
Thank you Rd.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
Hi Beagley. Thanks for the kind words I'm over a year in so its a little bit easier for me to see the big picture ( most of the time ) I see a life coach who is all about focusing on the positives I would not have gone near someone like this before but now I can't recommend her highly enough.
One thing she told me at the very start. W broke your heart and hurt you but in Ws mind she did that once , in your ( Rds) mind she's doing it everyday.
RD, it's nice to have someone that gets your sense of humor, isn't it? STBX has a very quick wit, and I was always right there with him. If other people caught on at all, they were about four beats behind. I hope the duck is slow witted (is that mean?)
Hi Vanillia. Thanks for checking in. Not doing well this week. Struggling with all the housework , very busy at work and getting ready for holiday
I have avoided. EXW all week and I haven't taken a couple of her calls over the last few days. I don't see the point it seems to be the same old story. Shes sorry , doesn't understand what happened , all her fault , etc
I'm still bothered by what she does but not to the same extent and I have accepted she can't comeback It doesn't make it easier when you think back on all the good times
EXW has told kids she's on Prozac and feels more like her old self
Hello RD. I'm sorry you aren't having the best week and hope things settle down for you soon. Pre-holiday can be a little stressful when you are trying to get everything done. I know the housework can seem never ending sometimes.
Hopefully you can relax and enjoy yourself once you start your trip. When do you go away??
I'm sure it is no bad thing to give yourself a break from your W. She is making progress in her own way I'm sure. I think if you can love her from a distance and just live your own life, that is the best plan. It's good she says she is feeling more like her old self I think.
Good luck with the rest of the preparations my friend xx
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Hi Sotto and Vanillia. Sotto. We are away on Thursday and I'm a biit worried about dealing with it all. Loving from afar is best and as you know I don't get involved with her and live my own life It's just hard a the moment because I know the future will always be tough re co parenting and having info on her life Thanks for checking in