Got here late... but I'm here now.

[duke]

D1 is 14, she is awesome, very sensitive, mature for her age, has trouble making friends only because she is more mature than her peers, she is a pleaser but has taken her moms side on this even though I made it clear she didn't have to take sides, we both love her. I really think the taking sides come from her mom, just the way she is in this conflict. W has really taken this one under her wing and does WAY more with her than the other 2. The other 2 resent this. D1 seems to be rebelling against me since she thinks "daddy must have done something really bad for mommy to do this but I don't know what". Her and I used to do everything together and it breaks my heart to see her so distant. I can remember many things since BD that W has done to keep us apart.

D2 is 11 and the most like me, she does many little strange things exactly the way I do. She keeps lots inside eventhough she seems very easy going lots bothers her and she bottles it up. Very hard to get her to talk. She is very caring though and looks after kids with disabilities at her school and doesn't care what the other kids think. She will go to her little sister and comfort her when they are scared. Once when W lost it on me (very rare) and was screaming at me I noticed that D2 went to D3 and hugged her to calm her down.

D3 is 9 and a little sweetheart. She just wants to have fun and be happy, she does not understand what is going on. I would tuck her in each night, rub her back and tell her stories or read with her. We both loved it. She loved doing things with me as well, bike rides, daddy dates, walks to the park, ice cream... anything with her and I she loved.

Together they all seem to be on the side of their mom. I really have been alienated since BD. Foolishly allowing it on my part. I just wanted to keep things calm and agreeable thinking that she would snap out of this. She really put all her effort in keeping them under her wing, doing everything for them, driving them every where eventhough I offered every single day. I am sure body language, saying little things, her reaction when I called or came over, double that with her mother. The month of August they were all away from me.... and now here I am. They have been to my place twice since Aug 30th and I ask all the time.