im going through the same thing youre going through. Although i havent heard anything about divorce, I know it's coming soon. My wife send me a text 8 days ago that she had left the house. She said she couldnt live like this and didnt know where this was going. Just like you mentioned about your wife always blaming you for everything and putting both of you in this situation , thats the same thing my wife told me. She doesnt answer my txt and when she does is either yes or no. The bad thing here is that she wont tell me where she is at. She has both of my daughters one is 3yrs the other 8months. She is hitting me low blow. Just like you are frustrated with going dark and having no contact with her and risking that she may forget about you in this stage , i am also thinking that . What if i keep ignoring her and show her i moved on , she will too?? But i dont want that . I want her back. It gets frustrating , hope you get through this !
