Judy, sane is definately a good word for it. I feel like my W is dillusional. And she sends me mixed signals anytime we talk.
I bought tix to her favorite band, before she filed, and gave them to her on her bday. Her bday was a wrek after she fiked, but i gave her the gift anyway. The concert was 1 week later. She looked at the tix, and said "it's too soon for us to go". Not sure what that meant. Then after the concert date had passed, I asked her if she enjoyed it, and she said "do you really think I would have went with someone else?"
What am I supposed to make of that? Don't believe any of what they say...right?
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35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....
She has doubts, but she doesn't want to. She wants to be right. You have to be the best "you" you can be, and several things will happen. The best two are; You will draw her back to you, or you will be happy regardless of what she does.
Thoughts like these are keeping me sane and helping me move forward.
I just heard part of a Kenny Chesney song, save it for a rainy day... I am gonna go back and listen to it again. Seemed fitting right now. I do believe in signs, and I saw the preacher that married us last week, for the first time since he married us. I turned on the tv, and it said Don't give up, in bug black letters. I believe we will be together again. But if not, I will be in a better place with myself regardless
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....
It amazes me how you can have an interaction with your W, and a couple hours later they tell you that you told them to f_off multiple times, and you know that you have NEVER said those words to them... just a random thought about rewriting history that is only a couple hours old. That was from the lawyers office Friday, btw.
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I have another question: I have been reading the Nuggets of wisdom thread. There are stories of people staying friends with their W through this and it helps them to turn it around. How do you know when to be friends vs using tougher love?
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....
Yes, I have the same question. My H has just lined up a weekend with OW from Match.com. He finally found one. and I feel like I need to say "I'm leaving for good now." I think he likes it when i just hang on and hang on.. and he can go out and "try" these other women and then count on having me there. I get mixed signals.. was away for 5 weeks when I came home he hugged me said he missed me.. and then set this up?? HELP what makes sense here?? ___ 57 H 57 W M 21 years S 20 D18 Move out Date 3/1/15
Well, I am not going to church with them today. This is hard, but I feel it is necessary. I do not want to avoid her, but I don't want her to think I will be there for her as a "gay boyfriend". No offense intended. So where is the line between tough love and being friendly enough that we can work through this? Or, do I just not do anything, and let her come to me? Advice?
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....
How do you " move on" from the only thing you want out of life? I am struggling right now, because I could be sitting with her right now at church, and I am second guessing myself.
I stopped by our house to grab a few things, and saw that she had a box of stuff that she had dug out of our hutch. It's just another little reminder of her trying to push me out of her future.
Feeling very down today
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....
