Need advice for a WW who left Part 4

[dwh15]

As usual V is right. Anger is a great motivator.

It seems that you have drawn a line in the sand, point of no return.... "After this, I cannot and will not be married to WW. There is simply too much damage, too much disrespect, for far too long."

Welcome to the club. That happens. People in worse situations than you who have said worse things than you, and most likely said NEVER. Have gotten back together. I guess my point is that the outcome is not important. Focus on what drove her away, learn from it, and don't do that stuff anymore. That will help your next relationship, no matter what it is.

Take responsibility for your piece, and do what needs to be done to move past this in a way that is responsible manner. I wrote this b/c of "WW is going to suffer the consequences of her poor choices, and may God have mercy on her soul, as I will not be taking mercy in the coming court proceedings."

Your kids did not ask for this, and yet as bad as it will be for you, it will be the death of their family. If you take her to court and destroy her, that will have a residual effect on your kids. Be careful and think it through.

Thank you mahhhty. Maybe I went a bit over the top on that statement, but I was pretty angry at the time. The kids don't hear me speak negative of mom, other than my oldest, who may hear me question what in the world she is thinking. But I never put her down, and always reinforce to them she is their mother no matter what.

My intention was to say I will be seeking a majority share of child custody, and that's not out of spite or trying to teach her a lesson. It's because I believe the kids are better off with me at this point in time. If WW ever comes out of the fog and makes a sincere effort to actually be a good parent, I would be happy about it and willing to share custody on a 50-50 basis. I honestly hope that does happen some day. But it's not where she's at now, and it may be years or never, before she gets there. It's very odd, because early in our M, it was the other way around. WW was a great mother and probably took 80% of the burden, while I focused on career. In hindsight, that likely contributed to our problems, but for now, I will be the rock for those kids.